Tricks of Opinion Brave Wise Kids
Give children the opportunity to express their opinions. As a result, you will have children who are sensitive to their environment and have exceptional leadership. Indeed it is not as easy to back your hand.
Question:
Generally, elementary school age children are able to express an opinion. But, why yes my son did not like it? He even tended to be passive and silent while in class.
Answer:
Indeed, there are also children who are still having difficulty expressing what he had in his thoughts and feelings. Characteristics, when asked to comment about something, there are children who stammer, can not even get the words out at all. We should not stigmatize the child is not smart trigger because there are some things that influenced him, such as:
1. Introverted nature. Children tend to be taciturn character rarely spoke. Although somewhat fair, we need to stimulate children to dare to express an opinion. One way you can do is give an open question. For example, "Do you think we are more fun to go to the bookstore or to a shoe store, huh?" Children usually will answer on the grounds that he had. At the beginning we do to stimulate the courage of children alone and ask the child to not be afraid to ask. Next to be with brother or sister, until at school.
2. It's hard to talk. In the case of stutter or lisp, children who often teasing her friends in the long run shy to speak and eventually he became difficult to express an opinion. Therefore, give motivation to the children to believe in yourself and do not care about people ribbing. If his confidence is growing well, it would be easy to give an opinion.
3. Thinking about a result. Perhaps the child thinks, if he gives an opinion, he will experience the unpleasant effects. Like, if he expressed an opinion, the teachers will be drilled with the following questions, while the child is not ready. Naturally, if children are reluctant to argue. All you need do is to prepare the child's arguments and good data so that when asked again to answer it.
4. Adaptation longer. Maybe kids need more time to adapt to new environments. He often embarrassed when asked his opinion. No need to worry, this will fade away as the child can adapt.
5. Lack of stimulation. Maybe at home or school children of less well stimulated so that it often frightened, shy, hesitant, to argue. It usually occurs in children who experienced authoritarian parenting, all of which have been specified by parents should not be denied and parents impose home rule is very rigid. Can also formal education at school still adhered to the conventional system in which children sit silent and when the teacher is explaining.
Give children the opportunity to express their opinions. As a result, you will have children who are sensitive to their environment and have exceptional leadership. Indeed it is not as easy to back your hand.
Psychologists and child observers, Mini Rose said, to develop leadership skills children should be stimulated as much as possible, one of them by giving children the opportunity to express their opinions. However, parents still have to be careful and meticulous with what the wishes of children.
For some problems that children can be involved to be asked for his opinion. But not all opinions of children must be obeyed. Especially when dealing with the needs of others.
A child still has limitations in processing information. They still think pre-operational and is self-centered. So, sometimes the opinions they express is something that is viewed from his perspective alone.
"What is said by the child is not necessarily right. Sometimes it does not match the needs of others. So there must always be obeyed," said psychologist who said Ms. Romi familiar in it.
One way that can be done to stimulate the child's expression so well is to include children in a discussion forum. Where is the forum can be a container appropriate for train the child express his opinion. In addition, children can argue with a good, trained to think critically and have the other leadership.
Involving children in discussion forums will provide a positive dapak. Children can communicate well with people, have the ability to resolve an issue or problem solving, a sense of empathy and care about the environment and have kemmapuan analyze the needs of the surrounding.
Parents can also do it in a home environment. For example, by discussing the responsibilities of children in domestic work. A sister can be requested as a role model for her sister. Given such beliefs, older children can express an opinion on how to care for younger siblings, gives the rule include obligations. While the little brother to express his opinions on the rules created by his brother.
When discussing with children, parents are advised to use the wise words for children to feel valued. If there is something wrong with the opinion of the child, parents can bring children to learn to respect others. Give reasons, objections, and the loss of child benefits gained from the opinions expressed.
Empathy owned a leader can be trained to familiarize parents express opinions with the wise words. That way children can also train themselves so that sensitivity can be concerned with the environment. Some things to note about the rights of parents believe the child, in accordance with the Convention on the Rights of Childern, among others: Create a democratic atmosphere. Light conversation can we create a relaxed moment. To remove the impression this authoritarian parents. Listen when children speak. Never interrupt a child, let alone ignore it, because children easily imitate what their parents do. Respect your children so they too can appreciate other people.
Use language that is easily understood. Children's ability in capturing the message delivered is not as fast as adults, while also pembendaharaan said they are still small. For that use easily understood language the child. Straighten if there are opinions that are not true. The role of parents in this case is very important. Not all children understand and know that what is conveyed is true. Teach sportsmanship. Children must learn to respect others 'opinions and accept others' opinions better.
Every child has the opportunity to express their opinions and have the potential to become leaders. But keep in mind is how parents can stimulate the child. Exposes children to various life problems, to train children to be able to be a good leader who can manage the environment properly and in accordance with needs. For hone life skills necessary exercise ... exercise ... and exercise. Good Practice.